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Why Are So Many Men Still Single?
1) In case of Smart people who are perceptive and good at reading personalities, they are easily able to locate and see people's red flags or deal-breakers from a mile away.
The truth is, in conversations, nobody really reveals how f**up they are, how bad at decision making they are, or how many mistakes they have made repeatedly, instead, what we do is, we show how awesome we are.
In doing so, the only emotion allowed to be felt is amazement, so naturally you'd fall for the person because you're thinking they are amazing.
It's only after a while of knowing them, you realize, they are severely unreliable, or their actions and promises have no correlation, or they are the opposite of the personality they sold to you.
Normally people buy these initial personalities and learn the hard way, but perceptive, Intelligent people have learned not to rely on what the other is selling.
They do their own investigation, and without the permission of the other person, are able to silently figure out what their actual behavioral tendencies are.
And with most people, they find, it's disappointing.
2) Trust.
After meeting so many people with a disjointed relationship between their actions and words, it becomes very hard to trust people.
A clever person knows not to trust the first impression, so they rely on data from people's past.
On wanting to know about their past, two things happen: 1) people either conceal information, or always adjust their stories portraying themselves in the right, as if in every scenario they were wronged by others, which is bullshit, and it makes hard to trust them.
2) they actually truthfully reveal their past, and you realize it's full of dysfunctional choices that follow a pattern.
In this case, dating then becomes a leap of faith, because you're unsure if they have overcome this pattern in which they repeatedly do something that screws their own peace.
3) Conflict of interests.
It is very hard to find people with similar interests, pursuits, and philosophies.
Smart people especially function on very strong philosophies they have grown to accept after thinking, reading, and debating a lot.
So in conversations, whenever they hear a philosophical or ideological belief they know is stupid, they are intensely put off.
The same goes with people's interests and likes, or the lack of any, which shows their personalities are either empty or borrowed.
People generally don't give much thought to their beliefs, ideologies, or principles, which is why so many people are confused, or keep switching their beliefs in accordance with what is radical, edgy, or would make them look cool.
There is no questioning, doubt, or thought behind these.
4) Smart people mostly are not fans of a vibrant social life. They feel no need for it.
And as you know, people crave a healthy social life as if they'lI die without it.
By social life, i mean socialising, going out, clubbing, meeting or getting to know more people, increasing their following, friendship count, social media shit.
There is a reason why most of the greatest geniuses throughout history were recluses, or had a very small close circle of friends, they did it not because it was a statement of coolness, rebellion, it was simply because they didn't see any point in it.
5) we don't want to get hurt, which reduces the chances of taking risks, which reduces the chances of getting in a relationship with any person who takes interest in you.
Smart people are selecting their partner on the basis of minimising the risk of hurt, stress, headache, and maximising growth, productivity, and happiness.
I hope you enjoyed this blog.
Thank you for reading, it's your syash. 😎
1) In case of Smart people who are perceptive and good at reading personalities, they are easily able to locate and see people's red flags or deal-breakers from a mile away.
The truth is, in conversations, nobody really reveals how f**up they are, how bad at decision making they are, or how many mistakes they have made repeatedly, instead, what we do is, we show how awesome we are.
In doing so, the only emotion allowed to be felt is amazement, so naturally you'd fall for the person because you're thinking they are amazing.
It's only after a while of knowing them, you realize, they are severely unreliable, or their actions and promises have no correlation, or they are the opposite of the personality they sold to you.
Normally people buy these initial personalities and learn the hard way, but perceptive, Intelligent people have learned not to rely on what the other is selling.
They do their own investigation, and without the permission of the other person, are able to silently figure out what their actual behavioral tendencies are.
And with most people, they find, it's disappointing.
2) Trust.
After meeting so many people with a disjointed relationship between their actions and words, it becomes very hard to trust people.
A clever person knows not to trust the first impression, so they rely on data from people's past.
On wanting to know about their past, two things happen: 1) people either conceal information, or always adjust their stories portraying themselves in the right, as if in every scenario they were wronged by others, which is bullshit, and it makes hard to trust them.
2) they actually truthfully reveal their past, and you realize it's full of dysfunctional choices that follow a pattern.
In this case, dating then becomes a leap of faith, because you're unsure if they have overcome this pattern in which they repeatedly do something that screws their own peace.
3) Conflict of interests.
It is very hard to find people with similar interests, pursuits, and philosophies.
Smart people especially function on very strong philosophies they have grown to accept after thinking, reading, and debating a lot.
So in conversations, whenever they hear a philosophical or ideological belief they know is stupid, they are intensely put off.
The same goes with people's interests and likes, or the lack of any, which shows their personalities are either empty or borrowed.
People generally don't give much thought to their beliefs, ideologies, or principles, which is why so many people are confused, or keep switching their beliefs in accordance with what is radical, edgy, or would make them look cool.
There is no questioning, doubt, or thought behind these.
4) Smart people mostly are not fans of a vibrant social life. They feel no need for it.
And as you know, people crave a healthy social life as if they'lI die without it.
By social life, i mean socialising, going out, clubbing, meeting or getting to know more people, increasing their following, friendship count, social media shit.
There is a reason why most of the greatest geniuses throughout history were recluses, or had a very small close circle of friends, they did it not because it was a statement of coolness, rebellion, it was simply because they didn't see any point in it.
5) we don't want to get hurt, which reduces the chances of taking risks, which reduces the chances of getting in a relationship with any person who takes interest in you.
Smart people are selecting their partner on the basis of minimising the risk of hurt, stress, headache, and maximising growth, productivity, and happiness.
I hope you enjoyed this blog.
Thank you for reading, it's your syash. 😎
