Are you looking for gorgeous girlfriend? Menseek

You see a beautiful girl, absolutely gorgeous, and your brain responds to that in a few scenarios:

1) Wow, she is so attractive, I want to have her as my girlfriend. Which means possession of beauty.

2) Wow she is attractive, and that's it. Which means acknowledgement of beauty, and leaving it at that.

3) Wow, what an attractive girl, I love her. (suicide of intelligence)

The most recurring theme is attraction.
The want is acquisition.
The cost is the possibility of rejection or getting hurt.

Therefore, love, abundantly, becomes the possession of beauty.
You see something beautiful, and you want it to be yours.

Why?
Because
1) beauty seems to be a wonderfully positive thing.

2) validation: if you have somebody beautiful, you are capable in your own eyes,

3) competition: the more beautiful the partner, the more capable as a man you are societally.

4) Sex, beauty underlays the most basic attraction.

This becomes messed up when beauty becomes a factor that starts to ignore, manipulate and twist information that might make you not so attracted to them.
Things you may have reasonably selected as red flags, compromises you don't want to make, lifestyle choices you disagree with, or any number of characteristics that turn you off, and now, they are suddenly ignored, manipulated or twisted by your brain.

In many situations, it evaporates any moral boundaries as well, for example, you're looking at a girl who is not single, but you don't care.
But we are not here to talk about that.
We are talking about how you fool yourself, and limits of fooling yourself to go to, to convince yourself this is the because you're hypnotised by their beauty.

1) red flags. Suddenly, things that may make you question their loyalty, starting from sexual history to social behavioral patterns, are met with justifications. She was cheated before, that's why.
She is like that because her parents were divorced.
You're using sympathy as a tool to fool yourself and create more attraction toward her which is emotional, and since it is hard to find any emotional compatibility, you're looking for and using tragedies from her past, viewing her as an innocent, clueless victim, and justifying them.
This is a very common thing people do because one, you're desperately attracted, and two, part of your brain knows it is just sexual, so you're forcing an emotional attraction.

2) lack of criteria.
You never consciously decided this is yes and these are nos.
Your red flags are accidental findings of your reasoning based on your past experiences and knowledge.
Because they are accidental, they are not that serious. You've never given them any power.
A criteria is consciously drawn out rules or a line that differentiates between what is acceptable and otherwise.
In the absence of such lines, things that are unacceptable get easily ignored because of desperation.
To make better choices in life, you need criterias.

3) What are you looking for?
Suddenly, this idea in your mind of the type of person you wanna be with gets subverted by attraction.

What you were looking for before - qualities, habits, intelligence to get readjusted according to the personality of this person.
And you're doing this consciously, which takes us to

Point 4) compromises.
You're making compromises in the matter of seconds.
She doesn't have that, well, who cares! She doesn't believe in this, who cares, we can be a couple that believes in two different things.
Anything goes after this point.
6 months later, you are stuck in a chaotic relationship, and you're trying with all the energy in your bones, mental capacities, and all the time you have to salvage and fix this. You've stopped working completely, your dreams are getting punched, and this person seems to be the worst person you have ever met, because they simply fail to see things eye to eye with you.
And then you hate the opposite sex. So here's a question for a want a smoking hot gorgeous girlfriend?
Or do you want a stable relationship? If latter, here are a few things that may come in handy: - learn to stay single, which means be patient. It's not gonna happen in the first try. Second, develop a criteria: what do you want in them?

What are the strict no nos? Third, have the character and the strength to look beyond beauty.
There is no shortage of beautiful people in this world.
And lastly, learn to say no to yourself.
Yes, she is beautiful, but I don't agree with her lifestyle, so l am not going to pursue this.
This may still not guarantee that you will land in a stable relationship, but what it does it, save you from months and years of agony, torture, trauma, and time waste - which I believe is anyday a far better deal.

I hope you enjoyed this blog.