Do You Keep Repeating the Same Mistake? Men'Seek

Do You Keep Repeating the Same Mistakes?

If you are doing that, it means:
1) there is something in it you like very much.
2) you realize it is not good for you, which is why you call it a mistake.
3) even though you call it a mistake, you haven't focussed on the lesson you learned from it.
4) you are weak because of which the lesson remains unapplied.
5) you are weak because of the thing you like very much.

Therefore, you need to acknowledge three things:
1) what is it that you like very much.
2) how bad is it hurting you?
3) how will your life change if you applied the lessons you learned?

Let's take two scenarios: dating and career.
First, dating.
Let's say, you keep getting into the same relationship even after getting hurt.
1) there is something in it you like very much of belongingness, the feeling of familiarity, sex, comfort, the feeling the illusion of normality, a fixation of wanting things how they used to be, something.
This is your drug, your addiction, or your weakness.
2) How bad is it hurting you?
Really think about what you have become.
Are you unhappy as a person?
Are you making compromises that the logical side of your brain disagrees with?
Are you changing, adapting, and cutting off emotional parts of you that used to make you who you are?
How have you changed as a person because of this relationship, which on many occasions you have called a mistake.
3) How will your life change if you stopped?
If you ended this, what will be the benefits that will come to your life?

Let's take the example of career now.
You are messing up again and again, as a result, you lose opportunities.

What is the pattern?

1) you are a prisoner of some habits that are taking all of your time - facebook, instagram, youtube, gaming, anything.
2) the fact that you are losing opportunities is the hurt these habits are causing.
3) if you stopped these habits, you will be successful.

Again, it goes back to being a prisoner of a few habits you love which are poisonous to your growth.

Every time you feel hurt or disappointed, your brain ought to conduct an investigation instead of just sleeping it off.

There is a reason why you have a logical, reasoning part of your brain, use it.
After an investigation, certain things come to the fore.

Is the pleasure from what you like WORTH keep getting hurt again and again?

Let's say you are emotionally addicted to your partner, but from time to time, they keep hurting you.

How many areas in your life does that hurt reach and impact? Is it making you sadder, lonelier, asocial, unmotivated, unproductive.

How many areas?

Is the pleasure of being with them worth all of these negative results?

This simple reasoning will give you clarity and strength to take logical action.
What you have been doing so far is take emotional actions, because emotions incline more toward feeling better, happy, and receiving pleasure, which means, doing it again.
And there you go.
And for that, you are awesome. 😊