The 3 Common Excuses You USE ALL THE TIME! || MenSeek || Syash Mishra ||
Some of the bullshit excuses you need to get rid of: 1) the biggest lie we tell ourselves: I will start from tomorrow, tomorrow is the day! Why?
Because you have conditioned yourself into believing this no matter how many times you use this. You want to cheat.
And you never developed a sense of punishment for lying to yourself. So now you are used to lying to yourself...
even though it is doing nothing but bringing self harm to you. It is doing nothing great for you, but you gladly continue.
Why does this lie always work? because tomorrow is not far away, it's going to happen really soon, this excuse relieves any form of guilt immediately and brings instant gratification in doing the things that we promised ourselves yesterday were going to quit.
2) People who say: "I wanna do it my way. I don't need anybody's help," and never solve their problems.
Their other excuses to refuse help are: it is complicated, you wouldn't understand, you don't know my life. Bullshit.
These are two special types of people: one who love to whine about their problems, you could say all that they want to do is talk about how complicated their lives are, how many problems they have, bad relationships, and they love to blame the stagnancy in their lives on these problems, and regardless of the fact that their problems are solvable, never apply the solutions given to them.
To them I would like to say, If somebody's offering you their help by showing you what's important for you, they are doing you a favor.
In reality, nobody gives a shit about you, so in those rare occasions when you find those who do, understand that they see something wrong about you that you need to fix. Make an effort in appreciation for their concern, or very soon, they too will stop giving a crap.
Second are those for whom it is an ego issue if someone gives them a solution, because they think they are too qualified and are too proud to accept help from others. If you have a continuing problem, then it's obvious you're unable to solve it, so accept help, just like you take medicine when you are sick because you can't heal yourself.
3) "I don't think I can do it. I can never work that hard." And the most special one that simply takes the cake: "I don't know!"
Statements like these have two implications: you are either completely self aware, or you are completely against the concept of pushing yourself.
The truth is both of the above revelations are bullshit. They are lies. Self awareness although necessary, most of the times becomes self defense.
What you might call self awareness could simply be a mechanism your brain has invented to keep you away from doing stressful work.
Your brain doesn't like stress and pressure, so it tries everything to keep you away from it.
"Hey, before we start working, let's check youtube,", "let's take a break from studying, open instagram."
To you all these habits are stress busters. You are relaxed and that's why you spend so much time on them.
Your brain doesn't understand success, it's what you discovered as you were growing up, your brain only understands your current state of being.
It wants to save you from stress, fear, threat, pressure, loss, pain, and sadness. It isn't programmed to naturally chase some goals.
You decide to do that based on finding out the relation between your current condition and how the world works.
Success is an idea that humans invented and built into a system of hierarchy. It's a perception that changes with the eyes of the beholder.
To some, being a responsible parent and raising their kids right is success, to some owning a private plane is, to some, it might mean finishing a work of art, and to some, creating a world record is success.
It changes from person to person based on what they see as an achievement.
And when you become self aware and start rationalising everything, your brain does figure out all of this, and you're stuck with two personalities: one personality which is lazy, doesn't want to work, so it builds the argument, "what really is success! Look around yourself, you're doing perfectly fine, so what I am not earning in millions, I enjoy gaming, true love is the most important thing in life, i am relaxed with whatever I have, why do I have to want more?
There is nothing wrong with being mediocre, I am like millions of fine hard working people who although remain unknown are the real contributors to society."
And then there is another personality that says, "no, i can be on the top, I want to on the top, I want to be found, known and celebrated, I wanna be a fucking millionaire,
I want to wear the best clothes, drive the best cars, and be able to own whatever I like."
nd here comes the dichotomy, a part of you that starts worshipping celebrities, all these personalities, models, you start dressing up like them, start emulating them, and the other part tells you to look at your bank account and your job, and be satisfied.
In this fight, I will tell you who the real winner is: procrastination.
Here's the point: you have to choose. Let me tell you something, even becoming famous is possible for anybody, and I say this because to people, this word seems like we are talking about contacting extraterrestrials.
Look at all the youtubers, app developers, business people, CEOs, writers, musicians, sport personalities, there are so many people you hadn't even heard of a few years ago. You know what happened?
they achieved their goals because they got out of that dichotomy. That living self contradiction in which you are stuck.
Choose what it is that you want to do and leave the other. If you have something that drives you, gets you all emotional and excited, but there is another side that tells you to be satisfied with what you have, tells you that what you desire sounds great but it is just too much hard work, then this self contradiction will reflect in your work ethics as well: one day, you will work very hard, then the other you'd just spend it with your buddies, watch tv shows, youtube, impress girls, then on the weekend, you will get stressed again and start working very hard, and then you'd go watch movies, get some drinks, and forget about it. That's the same behavior people exhibit after joining a gym, they go at it hard in the beginning, and then a week later, it becomes a few days, and in the third week, you go only once or twice, and then you're out.
You're living two lives: which one is it? Both are perfectly fine, as long as you know you won't regret the choice.
Regret changes you. It will make you a dark, unhappy person, because regret carries self hatred.
Your dream could be anything - a college, job, business, a book, a song, a film, anything.
The choice convinces your brain that this is the path you're taking, which in turn provides the room for raging obsession to enter.
Obsession for your goal cannot be quantified, so don't rely on reasoning and logic when it comes to following your goals.
Don't be stuck, realize that your bullshit excuses are creating a monument of regret. People are not ordinary, they choose that.
What's the choice you're going to make?
