The child in you keeps you happy 🙃 Mr-Syash Mishra

What we don't realize is that we have a child and a man in us.

The man is the hero of the child.

The child deals with emotions such as happiness, joy, mischievousness, materialism, love, being loved, avoiding aloneness, seeking wonder and beauty, the man deals with acquiring power, dominance, colonising, exploration, fighting the insecurities, battling the troubles, and finding achievements.

Most of us lose the child as we move along in life, which is why people in in their late 20s are completely different from who they were in their early 20s.

That doesn't happen because you mature, maturity has nothing to do with this, since I am not talking about childish behavior, I am talking about the innocence that enables you to relish and squeeze joy out of the most simple things in life.

When we are young, we are penniless, yet the happiest with our friends, joking, travelling, talking silly things about girls we have a crush on, making fun of serious people.

But we can't live like that forever, change is around the corner waiting for us because life is full of battles that innocence cannot withstand.

And for those battles and challenges, we look up to our hero, the man in us, who that child believes will never lose, never falter, never break down, or be weakened, after all, he is the hero the child knows will never disappoint.

But in certain battles of life, the man loses.

He fails or his heart is broken and ripped into pieces by someone, he is helpless in the corner crying unable to pick himself up, and the child sees his hero destroyed, incapable of recovery.

The man eventually picks himself up but because he cannot look into the eyes of the child anymore, he abandons him.

Now only the man remains in you, quieter, you smile less, you laugh at jokes but it fades away pretty quickly, you have nothing to prove anymore in life, you're just living, quietly and seriously, just like the people that child once used to make fun of.

Most often, the man in you gets so consumed by power and territorial conquest that he forgets the child completely, and in his pursuit for more and more, is never able to figure out why he is not content, and then goes on to several journeys of different types, just yearning to find that child again.

Happiness is in the balance of the relationship of that child and man in you.

You will fail, you will be beaten, your heart will be torn apart by people, but none of that means you lost, pick yourself up, and get back into the fight again - that's a hero.

Soon the child too will understand the hero doesn't always win, but he doesn't give up either; whether it is rebuilding the self by picking up the pieces and putting them together, or preparing for the next onslaught by getting stronger, the hero will always protect the child and never let any harm touch him.

That will make the child proud of you, which will result in the most proudly innocent smile you will wear always....because the child in you is smiling.

We enjoy life because of that child, so never let it go. We live a life we are proud of because of that man, so never give up. 

You are your own hero. How you behave in your victories and losses shapes your image in your own eyes.

When you win, be considerate of others' loss as well, and you'd discover your happiness growing as a result of growing self respect.

You feel that because it is the respect of that child for his hero.

When you lose, don't take it to your heart and draw large conclusions about your personality, ask yourself, what would a father do if his child was seeing him in that moment?

And you will have your answer, smile, protect the child's feelings, and make a silent resolve to keep going on, making ends meet, and never giving up. And that's it.

That's the simplest way of leading the most self respecting, contentful, amazing life one can dream of.

Thank you for reading. I hope you are having a great day!