Be your own friend || MenSeek

 

A lot of people tend to say, that this book changed my life. Change has to be enforced day after day, it is not dependent on the introduction of an idea; what an idea does is it opens a new door for your mind to see!

Many people call the amazement felt by that idea the change, but in reality no noticeable change occurs in their behavior.

Many people try to implement what they learn from the idea, but in a few days go back to their old ways.

Only a few stay with the idea, and bring about a difference in themselves.

What we learn is, no idea alone can change you, it's what you do with it that causes the change. In short, you cause the change.

And since it is you, let's consider this: Who is that one person that knows most about you?

With whom it's consciously not possible to lie? One you care about the most and would listen to the most?

Well, it's you again.

 Why haven't you then changed yourself yet?

The reason is because you're only limited to a one way conversation with yourself, it's not a dialogue.

You're moved to action when your best friend is in some trouble, the girl you like is in stress, you give up everything to rescue them.

But when it's yourself going through stress, it never happens, because in those times, you expect others to do that for you.

That's why we value other people so much because we want them to hear our problems, treat them with seriousness, and fix us.

But they can only offer the pretense of seriousness, they cannot feel that urgency because it is your problem.

Your life's story is yours, and everything you go in it, will felt by you alone. So here's what you need to do: 

In your phone, download any voice recording app. Record a message to the person you're gonna be a week later.

This is not a message to the person you're right now. So talk about the problems you're currently facing, the things that give you stress, advise him on how to solve these, about people you don't trust, people who are wasting your time, talk to him about your dreams, tell him in great details about what you feel about those dreams, how badly you want them to happen.

Scold that person if you want to, instruct them to work if you have to, tell them in whatever manner is required to set their mind straight.

Explain to them why they need to get out of spaces and relationships they are stuck in, tell them that they are important, their life should be great, join hands with them in making the promise to make your life great.

After a week, when you play the message, it's going to change your life, because that would the best message, the most personal, heartwarming thing you will experience.

It is your own self talking to you like a brother.

And nobody knows more about you in depth than your self.

So if there is an idea that can truly change your life, it is giving your self the opportunity to guide you.

 And keep doing it every week.

Pick a day on which you hear the message from your self, and record the other day.

Change is a long process, and it's advisable to be pushed, motivated, cared for in every step through, and especially when you are down, procrastinating, uninterested, being a dumbshit, it is needed more than ever for someone to explain to you what your dumbass behavior will cost.

If you relied on people to always come for you on such heavy moments, well, you're over expecting.

Why rely on people when you can do it yourself! Take responsibility like a boss on that message, make promises to yourself regarding tasks you're going to finish, so a week later, you can see for yourself where you are.

This is the greatest tool for self reflection and awareness available to yourself.

Use it.

Become friends with yourself.

Become loyal to yourself.

And start calling out your shit.

Thank you for reading, I hope you will do this every week.

It's not going to cost you anything.

You already talk to so many people.

Have a great day!